It's been a rough day.  Lots of good things happened but varying trying with the kids. I had to get tougher because they still don't think they have to do their chores.  I've never grounded them to their room but I did today.  AS normal, I wonder if I'm doing the right thing.  But I do think so.  I need them to realize now that they have to do what is asked and be respectful.  I spent all morning treating them like they were 3 yrs old.  They had to go with me everywhere to run errands, hold my hand and I talked to them like they were little kids, hoping they would get the idea. Didn't work.  I gave the time alone to figure out what they need to do to earn my trust back.  When they came out of "alone time" they cold tell me what they needed to do.  But then they did the opposite.  So I sent them to their room at 3:30 this afternoon.  They are still there now (8:30 pm).  I gave them dinner in a box of warmed up left overs from the week with a glass of water.  Some people make them I'm horrible but they need to learn that they will not treat me this way and disrespect me and our home.  It is so hard.  I cry and cry right now.  The right thing is often the hardest.